I’m unreliable, I think. I don’t really know what makes me say that. But it’s something that popped into my head, so I’m assuming it’s there for a reason. Or maybe not. Maybe I just wanted a reason to start writing.
This is a funny thing actually. I had absolutely no idea what I wanted to write about when I sat down here. But I sat down anyway, since I need to be consistent with this blogging thing. Maybe that’s what makes me say that I’m not reliable. That I’m a person that makes commitments like these and then don’t keep them. Who knows? And – more importantly – who cares?
This got me thinking about trust.
Trust is something that almost everyone I’ve talked to about it, thinks is something that needs to be earned. You need to show your good side to a person before you are to be trusted. I find it hilariously ridiculous to be honest. The only thing that gives a person trust issues is fear. And while I do my best to stay clear of fear-ridden beings, it’s hard to be consistent with that if you want to maintain a healthy social life.
Here’s the deal, if I mistrust someone, it says more about me, than it does the person I’m mistrusting. I can’t allow myself to be vulnerable because I’m afraid of rejection. But honestly, rejection is a part of life just as any other. Why try to run from something that is so fundamental to social growth? Back when I was dating coaching, I got one specific question very often. They wanted to know how to never be rejected again. This is impossible. There is no way you will ever be rejection-free. Rejection hurts, sure, but it’s also necessary for expansion.
Look at building muscles. When you do a workout session, you’re actually hurting your muscles. Only during the night after – when you’re recovering – are you actually building the muscles up. Before you can become stronger, you need to weaken that part first. It’s exactly the same with the brain. The brain is also a muscle, and if you don’t put it through things like that you will never expand your mind. It’s something to think about next time you’re trying to avoid rejection.
The only thing I ever talk about on this blog is Letting Go, and this time is no different. To rid yourself of trust issues, you need to set your expectations to a realistic level. Don’t emotionally invest in things in the future. If you put your investment on something that has yet to happen, then you’ll be doing the only really big mistake you can do. Namely, distancing yourself from the present moment.
Becoming self-reliant should be the number one priority for all people, if you ask me. And it’s actually unfathomable to me, how we can focus on anything other than getting to the point where we function independently to others instead of relying on people to be. Get your priorities straight, man. It’s your fucking life we’re talking about.
Because – and I know you don’t like to hear this but – the truth is that you’re going to die some day. And another truth is that you have no fucking idea when that day is going to be. It might be in 50 years or it might be in an hour. No one knows. But we DO know that we’re going to die. In fact, that’s actually the only thing in this physical universe that we can know for sure.
So, since you know this, why the fuck are you wasting your time? How important is is to be protective of your pride? Go out there, be vulnerable, love unconditionally and let the fuck go!
Carpe Vitae – Memento Mori